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What happens when a dating & relationship blogger gets writer's block?

What happens when a dating & relationship blogger gets writer's block?

I find myself with many topics on my mind recently and having a ton of conversations with close friends about things I see on tv, things my friends are dealing with, as well as my own personal experiences. It’s not always as easy as you’d think to decide what’s worthy of sharing with your audience so I decided to do what I know best and that’s just to be true and transparent about it all.

I meet people who have all types of baggage. Allow me to explain before you chop off my head. We all have baggage of some sort, something that your partner will have to decide if they want to get involved with and support you on. We all have our limits as to what we are willing to take on and few understand that. Single people like myself get criticized for being selective of the type of baggage we are open to welcoming into our lives. If no one told you already, this is YOUR LIFE. No one can choose for you how to live it.

I am in a very good space right now, the best I’ve ever been actually. No drama surrounding me true independence, and I’m creating my own peace daily. A partner should be one who adds to that peace, not causing issues. We have a right to maintain peace so hold onto that if you have it, as I choose to.

I am one who dates (or should I say open to dating) freely. I don’t have high expectations for finding my next or last boyfriend. I do however expect the next to be the last boyfriend. So when I do fall for someone, its hella hard. I know that the person will not have those red flags that force me to run in the opposite direction. Dating has not come easy but if there’s anyone you need to talk to about being tossed through the wind or having love knock you down and getting back up to try again and again, its me!

One thing that many of you know is that when I have writer’s block and I have nothing to share with you all, I take my feelings and experiences to my journals. My love journal (1 of 3 journals),has been getting major work within the last month and I credit someone who made an impact in my life. Someone that taught me that even if the one isn’t around the corner, love is possible again. You just have to open yourself up to it.

I believe many of us are not open to love because we are not open to the risk of being hurt. Love is in fact a risk. Most times it may not lead us to where we want but it brings us through the toughest pains to appreciate the gift at the end of the road. Some of our roads are longer or more challenging than others and I honesty can’t explain to you why. I am confident though in this fact…if you want a simple boxed cake you add water, eggs, and oil. However, when you want a specialty recipe that is not dry, the texture is on point, smells fresh and lasts for days and is to die for…you’ll need flour, sugar, milk, eggs, butter, maybe some sour cream…okay you get the point right?

If you want just a basic relationship or someone just to call a boyfriend or girlfriend that’s easy to find. Just pick one! If you want something that will last, with someone compatible, fun, exciting, with a real connection, and common goals you’ll have to add in some more ingredients…work, effort, time.

I’m learning to be patient, I’m trusting my instincts more, and I’m taking risks. Smart risks…remember my motto. Love Wisely! Stick to that, and you’ll be good to go every time!

The Fourth Winter

The Fourth Winter

A letter to my 17 year old self: A talk for teens

A letter to my 17 year old self: A talk for teens

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