They cheated...Now what?
Their phone rang while they were sleeping and you only wanted to silence it because you had to be up at 5am to make your monthly staff meeting. You reach over and there are several incoming texts from “Rebecca” and you wonder…”Did I drop the ball?” You replay every office holiday party, every family barbeque, every night you’ve met them after work at happy hour attempting to recall if you’ve ever been introduced to a “Rebecca”. Nope. No recollection of her. Wait, its 2am…Why are they getting texts and calls from one person repetitively at this time of night.
The morning comes and you’ve tossed and turned all night over it. Instead of ruining your morning, you decide to go to work to avoid argument and focus on your day of productivity but you just can’t think straight. You decide to ignore the thought and make your way home to surprise your sweetheart with a home-cooked dinner but they’re suddenly “working late” or decided to go out with “the crew”. They’ve never been this spontaneous before. In fact, you’re usually invited along for these things.
Months go by and there wasn’t any solid “proof” and you wouldn’t dare show your lack of trust by going through their phone but one day while doing the laundry something falls out of their pocket that isn’t normal…a pack of cigarettes and your partner doesn’t smoke. A lighter? Something that shows a change in behavior, unstable work schedule suddenly, odd excuses for not checking in or new habits that aren’t traits of their normal character. Intimacy levels decrease between the two of you and finally you have the guts to outright ask, “Is there someone else?”
After asking the question you never know you’d be prepared for you receive the response, “Yea, but it’s nothing serious.” So now what? You might be thinking, “IT’S NOTHING SERIOUS? If it’s ‘nothing serious’, then WHAT’S THIS?” You’ve been with this person several years, you’ve sort of built your lives around each other and you thought you were tight, going in the same direction. Where was it on the signup sheet that it would be okay to see other people? Were you supposed to be doing the same thing? Should you start? To continue reading...Click here