The Fourth Winter
Cuddle season is upon us and most that are single are scrambling to find their winter “slumber party” companion. Someone to fill a temporary void during the cold months where there is a lack of outdoor activity and social events to engage with others. It’s a time where most that are alone start drafting applications so that they aren’t forced to lie in bed with an empty space next to them or don’t have to submit themselves to nights in front of Netflix and chilling solo. Not for this gal though…
Cuddle season simply doesn’t exist in my world. It’s no different from any other season throughout the year besides the change in outdoor temperature. Why? I simply won’t settle for something that’s created to be temporary. Why set yourself up for the disappointment of getting potentially attached to someone despite the agreement to “go with the flow”?
I’ve been single for 3 years and I ended my last relationship at the start of the holiday season. Most would think that’s a crazy move but I say why hold onto something that wasn’t meant to last and create false memories attached to dates that will remain in your mind? Especially if you are confident you’re not missing out on anything by spending the holidays alone in comparison to receiving gifts from someone you will discard anyway…that speaks volumes.
What’s a Winter alone like? Well, it’s exactly like the first thought that comes to mind…Lonely. No for real, but you know what else it’s like? Free. Free of drama, arguments, someone always in your space smothering you, freedom from forced interaction. Being single during cuddle season means you’re not obligated to spend every indoor moment with the same person. Hell you could spend it with different people if you choose to! Sure, of course there are times where you’ll crave someone’s company but that feeling doesn’t last forever. How do I know… I’ve only accomplished it 3 Winters and counting.