A letter to my 17 year old self: A talk for teens
You’re about to come upon the next few toughest and most misunderstood phases of your life ever. So many things won’t make sense to you yet you’ll still feel like you want to be in control. You will question a lot of things and be told that you shouldn’t. You will spend years studying something only to realize later in life that it’s okay to change your mind about what you want to do and your lessons in love will be the biggest life lessons of all.
It’s unfortunate that you have been molded to believe that everyone you date will have the same intentions as you and that it’ll take you years to learn that lust is the first response of the body in most situations. You’ll endure your very first heartbreak soon and lose your sense of identity. Know that it’s okay and that this is only preparation to build and guard your heart.
Take time to find yourself. Figure out what things in life drive you, move you, thrill you. Find out your purpose. Try as many activities as possible when you are old enough and don’t limit yourself. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for job hopping in the early years because you’re just trying to find out where you belong. If at some point you realize that being under someone’s nose isn’t for you, then maybe it’s time to break out of that mold that everyone wants you to fit into.
Know that your parents mean well. Really they do. I know there are days where you wish you had other parents but they’re doing the best they know how. It isn’t their fault that you will grow to have your own thoughts and opinions but trust me, one day they will respect them. One day you’ll get along better than you ever have. It may take some distance between you and them because right now you have no clue what the world holds for you, but once you figure it out you’ll be able to approach them with your thoughts as a young adult with a little more experience.
Your upbringing will play a major role in who you become in life and you’ll later appreciate certain values instilled in you from youth all while adding on more of your own personal morals to create an integrity that makes you truly unique…One that makes you a person that many feel comfortable confiding in. Don’t stress yourself out as much worrying that you haven’t figured it out yet. What your purpose is, it will come at the perfect time and not too late so enjoy your life.
None of your friends will be around a decade from now. None of them, so don't take disagreements so personally. Continue to treat others how you expect to be treated and let them learn from their actions. Don't let your peers sway you and stick up for yourself. One day you're gonna have an amazing group of companions who not only understand you but support what makes you different and won't force you to change or conform. You got this!
You’ll spend many of your years falling in and out of love with many of the wrong people. Don’t beat yourself up too much about it. Just make sure to record all of your lessons. Share them with others. Don’t repeat the same mistakes twice and know that all of your choices have consequences both good and bad. Make your decisions slowly and learn quickly. Life will not stop to allow you to catch up so use every day given to hit that reset button and move forward with progress.
I can’t tell you when you will meet the person you’re to spend most of your life with, but I can tell you that after you’ve spent a good amount of time molding yourself into what you see as the ideal partner the closer you will get to finding him. With every disappointment you’ll learn more about what you need in a mate and this will give you most guidance to work on yourself. I can tell you that he’s out there, for if he weren’t, you wouldn’t be getting anywhere at all…and you are…so don’t give up. Don’t stop loving yourself, don’t stop loving your family, and don’t stop loving those you keep close and love wisely, for the love that waits will be the greatest one of all.