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Sometimes you just gotta take a chance

It's sad to see how much I've grown but to also know that I very well may have passed up great opportunities for being with my mate. Only the thought that there is no such thing as soulmates or "the one" gives me hope, because this one guy was a little more clingy than I wouldve liked him to have been about a decade ago, but he was really nice.

We worked together but never talked much. Years laters he hit me up and he had a kid, I wasn't open to dating guys with kids at the time so that didnt work. More years later he hit me up again, I was open to dating guys with kids but he had moved to New Jersey and worked in Manhattan. Also a bust for me because I didnt think we'd have much time to see each other. Especially when he had his daughter on weekends. He was willing to see me after work but I thought it'd be too much of a challenge.

So here we are...almost a decade later. Single and he has pics on the beach and candid shots with a very beautiful counterpart. The lesson? Sometimes you just gotta take a chance. Don't overthink things or worry about why things "might not" work. If there are no red flags, the attraction is mutual, and they've got a good head on their shoulders...go for it because hey, you never know.

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A letter to my Single Strong Black Men

A letter to my Single Strong Black Men

It's tough

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